Midweek hump day. Good thing is that the 2 younger are on a school excursion and coming home at the same time. So I have 1 more precious hour to prep and cook!
And the weather, it's good too. Lovely weather to do laundry.
And I'm just mildly sick. Scratchy throat but no infection.
I can survive!!!!!
So this is why I'm practicing gratitude. Because I've been a cranky emo mom and my children have been affected and become cranky and emo too.
They really learn everything we do, not just what we say.
Below is from my weekly AHA Parenting email. It's all about respectful parenting which I ideally agree with but can't seem to execute.
Concentrate on naming, savoring, and feeling gratitude for the blessings you do have — your love for your kid, the pleasures of eating the food you like, the sight of the sky at dusk, the entertaining drama of your unique fate. Don't ignore the bad stuff, but make a point of celebrating the beautiful stuff with all the exuberant devotion you can muster." — Rob Brezsny
If you feel like your life isn't as joyful as you'd like, here's a sure-fire strategy to replenish your joy quotient.
Research shows that feeling gratitude transforms our moods and our brains. One reason is that feeling grateful floods us with oxytocin, which creates more oxytocin receptors, which makes us happier. So gratitude can actually change our happiness set-point, which is our usual happiness level. Naturally, all those good feelings make us more compassionate parents.
Want to find more gratitude? These three simple habits can change your life. What better time to begin practicing them than the week before Thanksgiving?
1. Start a daily gratitude practice. Every morning, train yourself to find at least three things to be grateful for. Make it part of your morning ritual, so that you remember to do it – as you brush your teeth, nurse the baby, drink your coffee, drive the kids to school, whatever. Can't find the time?
Make it a morning ritual with your kids and let them chime in. Studies show this practice makes us feel measurably happier within a week, and raises our happiness “set-point” continually for as long as we do it.
2. Every day, find a moment to sit with each of your kids and feel appreciation. How did you get lucky enough to have this child put into your arms? Don’t let your worries steal this precious moment. Instead, remind yourself of how much you love this child. Let gratitude wash over you.
Pour your love and appreciation into your child. You just changed your physiology, and your child’s, to make both of you happier and healthier.
3. When the upsets of daily life loom large, retrain yourself to find something positive in the situation. This may feel artificial at first, but you’ll quickly notice that your attitude really does depend on your perspective.
“Thank goodness she had this meltdown at home instead of in the store.”
I'm getting better and better at dealing with his anger"
True, my child sometimes drives me crazy. But what about those people who so desperately want a child and can’t have one? Or who mourn a child? I am lucky, lucky, lucky to have this child, upsets and all.”
Gratitude doesn't mean you don't take action to change things that aren't working. But you'll do that better from the feeling of goodness that gratitude gives us.
Can’t find your gratitude? Life can be hard, even heart-breaking.
Yet, even during tough times, there is so much to be grateful for.
Remind yourself of what you already know: You are truly blessed.
Saw no1's report book. #choosejoy on hold for now…
Ok some positive reframing
"She didn't go for tuition at all and she achieved these results!"
"Her form teacher gave her very positive conduct remarks!"
"She's only p2 and there's still a long way to go; education is a marathon lifelong journey!"
Ok what is done is done.
Late night baking for tomorrow. The children are all changing schools and will miss their teachers very much.
I don't have enough but I am doing the whole positive reframing hahaha.
"It's ok I don't have enough. It means that my family love my cookies and 物以稀为贵!"
I should have been more prudent with baking them on Sunday cos now I'm like only giving each teacher 4…using a smaller Daiso bag to make it look fuller!!